Most people do the best with the hand they have been dealt.  After all, that’s what school, family, friends and popular psychology teach us.  But when we realise that Henry David Thoreau was observing and not prophesying when he said “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation”, a whole new world of unlimited possibilities opens up to us.

We are a fascinating, unlimited mix of observable, hidden, superficial and deep parts.  Through the application of science, we have come to know the observable parts of mankind and our physical reality. Anybody who has fallen in love, knows there is another whole dimension that science can not explain, but can ascribe labels and track the physiological changes that occur as a result of the undefinable energy we feel when we love something or someone.

 There are many areas of life and our existence which follow the same essentially undefinable format of love, and these include its opposite emotions of loneliness, sadness, anger, jealousy, envy, fear and doubt.

We can ascribe rational explanations for these emotions, we can distract ourselves from the feelings through alcohol, drugs (both recreational and prescribed), relationships, sex, sport and hobbies, or can just tough it out and deny and rationalise them.  Ultimately, most don’t know how to use the energy to obtain positive, useful, sustained growth.  When we are feeling depressed, anxious, confused or fearful, we are not broken, we are identifying areas for potential growth, and if we look at our beingness as more than a bag of bones, blood and chemicals, leading to random outcomes that need to be controlled, healing can be achieved.