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Although we have all heard someone exclaim “I’m doing my best”, how often have we heard a loved one, a boss, supervisor or teacher say “Just do your best”?

It’s all a matter of control and judgment, isn’t it?

The person exclaiming “I’m doing my best” is invariably validating why they didn’t achieve the expected, desired or ordered outcome, which means it’s filled with guilt on not fulfilling the projected expectations.

The person setting the expectation is maybe following classic textbook leadership protocol, but is definitely not exhibiting any element of faith or insight into the abilities of their team.

The worst abusers of the expectation of contribution to a project or society, is invariably ourselves.  Although we tend to judge ourselves in hindsight like “I’m not surprised I am such a failure / they left me / etc, I didn’t do well enough”, we also often sabotage our efforts before we even start with negative expectations such as “There is no way I’m going to be able to deliver this done correctly AND on time” or “I know there’s nothing I can do that will ever make them happy”.

Faith in the belief that “everything is for the good” means that no matter how it seems, do your best, and the rest will fall into place as the energy of the Universe aligns with your beliefs and best efforts.  There are wonderful stories not only from every religious tradition but also from secular endeavors that support this belief.

The secret is that everything is energy, and the most powerful tool for accomplishing anything is to vibrate at the highest frequency, causing the energy to align in your favour.

This implies staying out of stressful, doubting, negative thinking and even worse, speaking.

You may recall a day when you were feeling rather positive about work, and then a colleague came in and shared a rumour about impending disruptions at work. You will recall that inevitably that left your feeling heavy, sluggish, demotivated and struggling to sustain the same output and thinking prior to the uninvited news.  Now I’m sure you would agree that the negative insights did not contribute positively to your productivity and chances of success, a rather cruel interlude.  How much more cruel when we do it to ourselves.

You may also recall a day when you were feeling less than optimistic, could not muster the energy, focus or motivation to get started with a project, let alone complete it on time with your best efforts, when this funk was interrupted by a call from a loved one who shared positive news with you or invited you to participate in an activity that you love, which left you suddenly full of energy, motivated and before you know it the project is completed better than ever before while you quietly whistle to yourself miraculously at the same time as sporting a great ear-to-ear smile.  Now imagine how different life could be if you could tap into THAT kind of energy at will.

My challenge to you right now, is to use all your senses to choose to step into a positive mindset, by either recalling a time from the past or imagining a situation, where you feel excited, motivated, joy filled and positive.  Hold your body in a way it is in that moment, breathe deeply into every cell of your body, notice how bright the scene is, what sounds you can hear and how crisp the sounds are, what the smell and taste of this state is, and become aware of how light your body and mind feel.     NOW tackle your project.

You could choose to remember, that every one of us is uniquely different and has our talents and our areas of potential growth, so to compare ourselves to socially projected expectations in any one field, will lead to feeling like a failure, but to acknowledge that your strengths are exactly what the Universe needs, because you are an invaluable cog in this complex, integrated wheel of life, will allow you to keep your vibrations high and to deliver your best game, in the way it is most advantageous, at the right time and place.

Go forth and be YOU to the best of YOUR ability.